We’re not talking about your epitaph, but something much more current. It’s what people say about you today.
If your name comes up in conversation at a networking event, what do people say?
I’ve heard so many things said about others – when they’re not in the room. Some were glowing tributes, others were less complimentary. Even when people are not actively trying to put you down, a careless comment can do irreparable damage.
I’m sure you’ve heard people saying things like:
“She’s lovely, but a bit of a nightmare, never on time and so disorganised.”
“He’s something of an acquired taste.”
“He’s really helpful, but overpromises and isn’t great at meeting deadlines.”
“She doesn’t really say much, I think she’s a bit shy.”
I’ve heard similar – and none of them were said in a nasty way, more in a vaguely humorous or even a sympathetic way, but that doesn’t change the impact on anyone listening.
We all want people to think well of us, but what do we do to actively promote those good impressions? If you could be a fly on the wall listening in to a conversation where you’re mentioned – what would you like to hear?
Your reputation depends on your attitude and your actions.
Reputation is not an accident, it’s dependent on how you present yourself and that has to come from within.
Are you a glass half full person?
Do you tend to see the best in people?
Are you always keen to help people if you can?
When you make a promise how quickly do you follow up on it?
Do you make an effort to start conversations with people you don’t know to learn about them?
Do you smile easily?
How focused are you on conversations you’re in? (You’re not one of those people who are always looking for the next prospect over someone’s shoulder – are you?)
How much effort do you make in finding out how you can help new connections?
How much do you allow your personal life to impact on your business connections?
Paying attention to these things will help to give your reputation a polish; if you teach yourself to do them as your normal modus operandi.
You can learn to focus on the positive and to develop a genuine interest in the people you meet. If you’re not making the connections that generate that interest, maybe you’re networking in the wrong groups!
